The first time I sat down to Thanksgiving dinner with my in-laws, I had made the incorrect assumption that their celebration would be the same as my family’s.
I expected Turkey. And pumpkin pie. And football. Well, there was football. But no turkey!
Hubby's family has a wonderfully diverse and sophisticated palette, and that year there was a plethora of other fantastic foods to choose from. (It was delicious!)
But as the day drew on, I realized that it wasnt just the absence of the turkey that was affecting me.
In my family at every Thanksgiving dinner, we would go around the table and say one thing we were thankful for.
Truthfully, up until that first Thanksgiving away from my family, I had rolled my eyes in dread each time it was my turn. Stopping and giving thanks was the last thing I wanted to do when I had a gorgeous golden brown turkey glistening before me.
But the absence of it that day made forced me to see just how much I had appreciated that simple yet significant tradition.
The next time we were able to celebrate Thanksgiving at the in-laws found me with a new sense of confidence! I wanted to introduce my new family to my traditions. As we all sat around the table, getting ready to eat, I announced, “I thought it would be fun if we could go around the table and say something we are thankful for!”
My heart was pounding out my chest and I was grinning from ear to ear.
As I nervously made eye contact with my in-laws, I realized I was being met with stoic and even confused expressions. My soft spoken and humble in-laws were not as excited about my family traditions as I was. And even though they graciously obliged me that year, it was never brought up again.
Planning out our Thanksgiving this year it occurred to me that there was a way to incorporate my beloved tradition of giving thanks and still honor the gentle humbleness of my husband’s family.
I made “thankful” cookies.
The idea is simple… I place out a tray of blank cookies, and every family member can write one thing they are thankful for on their cookie. People can do this throughout the afternoon in their own time.
They can do it anonymously or sign their name.
The nice thing about these cookies is that it’s a win-win. Even if people don’t want to participate, we still have a lovely treat to munch on through our weekend!
So what family traditions do you have at Thanksgiving?
I highly recommend using my favorite sugar cookie recipe and glaze icing recipe. :)
I love it! Cute and edible and a perfect reminder.
I just silently hide and hope no one wants to talk to me at my in-laws. We come from two different worlds, and they hide their dysfunction. My family airs that out on the lawn. This is a problem when they ask me how life is. :-p
Posted by: Shaina | November 16, 2010 at 09:07 PM
I love it! Cute and edible and a perfect reminder.
I just silently hide and hope no one wants to talk to me at my in-laws. We come from two different worlds, and they hide their dysfunction. My family airs that out on the lawn. This is a problem when they ask me how life is. :-p
Posted by: Shaina | November 16, 2010 at 09:11 PM
Great idea!
Posted by: Renee | November 16, 2010 at 09:11 PM
Awesome idea! I love going around the table telling each other what we are thankful for. However, this will work for those who are a little on the shy side. :)
Posted by: Joy | November 16, 2010 at 09:16 PM
Very creative idea. Your in-laws are blessed to have you in their family :)
Posted by: Kelli | November 16, 2010 at 09:17 PM
We also did this, we would go around the table and tell each other aloud what we were thankful for. Hubby's family doesn't do this, and they also don't make the normal Thanksgiving meal, but my husband I promised to start our own tradition once we have our own children :)
I think these cookies are adorable and such a clever idea!
Posted by: Courtney | November 16, 2010 at 09:20 PM
I LOVE these!!!! Enough said!
Posted by: Kristen@High Heels and a Hammer | November 16, 2010 at 09:27 PM
I love this! You are way too cute!
Posted by: the urban baker | November 16, 2010 at 09:39 PM
YOU ARE AWESOME. THIS IDEA ROCKS! Go you!
Um...my tradition is so dumb...but it also isn't done at my in-laws which is hard. We ALWAYS went to my aunt's house for Thanksgiving. And we ALWAYS had a pickle/olive/cheese tray. And my cousins and I ALWAYS snuck pieces off of it before the meal...and snacked on it all afternoon. I miss it.
Posted by: Jenney | November 16, 2010 at 09:51 PM
very creative. :)
Posted by: Stephanie | November 16, 2010 at 10:22 PM
looove it!!
Posted by: Becki D | November 16, 2010 at 10:28 PM
We don't have a thanksgiving day as such in India, but my family does this (sharing what they're thankful for) at Christmas. This is a great idea, and I plan to incorporate it into my family's Christmas celebration this year.
P.S This year, my parents have invited us and my in-laws over to their home for Christmas. Praying and keeping my fingers crossed that all goes well!
Posted by: scatterbrain | November 16, 2010 at 11:17 PM
I love your blog! I write a completely different type of page (sjbthewords.blogspot.com) from a completely different perspective, but I love reading about your life. I mean I'm a black college student in Atlanta who only cooks in a crock pot and never wants to get married, yet your themes still appeal to me. Bravo!
Posted by: Archel Bernard | November 17, 2010 at 01:14 AM
Wow, these are amazing! You are such an inspiration.
Posted by: Jessica @ How Sweet | November 17, 2010 at 05:42 AM
What a wonderful idea Amanda! This idea is what I'm making and introducing to my family this year. I'm not going to limit it to Thanksgiving. I'm going to take it to every gathering, and have a prompt question for everyone to answer that would remind us of things from our past. We all have stories in our memories that need to be told.
http://www.writeclickscrapbook.com/write_click_scrapbook/2010/11/thanksgiving-prep-week.html
Posted by: Amy K | November 17, 2010 at 05:45 AM
Amanda, thanks for reminding us about the true meaning behind this whirlwind of a holiday. These cookies not only look like they taste great, but the interactive quality is spectacular! Who would pass up this opportunity to write on a cookie??!
Posted by: marla {family fresh cooking} | November 17, 2010 at 07:10 AM
What a fun idea Amanda!!!
Posted by: TidyMom | November 17, 2010 at 07:37 AM
Ah! I made those exact cookies yesterday--in the same colors and everything! My favorite tradition is tonight! Our church has an annual Thanksgiving dinner where sweet ladies and a young guy chef cook turkeys at church all day and the rest of us bring the sides. Then people share thanksgiving for how God has blessed them through the year. When we first went on staff at the church, it was going through a rough patch and we prayed that 200 people would come. This year, ALL thanks to God, it's set up for 450 + overflow! We are so blessed and I couldn't love these people more!
Posted by: Londa | November 17, 2010 at 07:39 AM
So creative and fun!
Posted by: Maria | November 17, 2010 at 08:24 AM
I love, love, love this idea, Amanda! LOVE!
Posted by: bridget {bake at 350} | November 17, 2010 at 08:41 AM
Brilliant idea Amanda! Brilliant!
Posted by: Renee (Kudos Kitchen) | November 17, 2010 at 08:42 AM
What a wonderful idea! Love it! My family does the go around the table and say what you're thankful for thing as well. And truthfully...I roll my eyes(I'm shy and self conscious and not one to speak in public - even in my family!) :) But you're right - when I'm with my husband's family I miss it! These cookies are a wonderful idea. :)
Posted by: megan @ whatmegansmaking | November 17, 2010 at 08:52 AM
Such a smart, fun idea. I think our young kids can even get in on the fun and would love to draw/scribble on their cookies before they eat them on Thanksgiving.
Posted by: Chris @ theoeche | November 17, 2010 at 08:52 AM
Very fun! I just did a similar thing with "thankful muffins!" It's such a special thing, being thankful, and sometimes extending out of ones comfort zone makes it even more poignant.
Posted by: Wenderly | November 17, 2010 at 09:07 AM
I love this idea!
Posted by: Erika - In Erika's Kitchen | November 17, 2010 at 10:01 AM
Amanda, what a GREAT idea!!! I love it. Now I just have to get my icing right to do some cookies.
Posted by: naomi | November 17, 2010 at 10:50 AM
Before I ate those sweet little cookies of yours I'd have to write that I'm thankful for having found you through blogging and twitter. Great idea!
Posted by: Paula | November 17, 2010 at 11:35 AM
What a great Idea this is! Never thought about it before. Thanks!
Posted by: Judy Kingston-Smith | November 17, 2010 at 02:41 PM
What a brilliant idea!!
Posted by: Kristen | November 17, 2010 at 02:56 PM
Excellent idea! My family had the same tradition (going around table saying what we were thankful for) when I was growing up. We also read a passage from the Bible. I plan to do the same when I am blessed with my own family.
Posted by: Judith Norman | November 17, 2010 at 06:18 PM
What a fantastic idea! I don't think I've ever heard of anyone doing that before.
Posted by: Alexia | November 17, 2010 at 10:51 PM
i love this idea!!!!
Posted by: jenny | November 18, 2010 at 01:34 AM
I just had to stop by and congratulate you on your cookies making the top 50!!!! Yeah!
Posted by: Amy K | November 18, 2010 at 05:33 AM
Cookies really do solve all problems!!!
Posted by: carma | November 18, 2010 at 09:31 AM
What a grand idea! Good way to 'compromise.'
Posted by: Andrea | November 18, 2010 at 09:39 AM
This year we are starting the day off with an 8k race in our town. I hope it becomes tradition! I love your cookie idea.
Posted by: Kylie Barnes | November 19, 2010 at 12:25 AM
I have NEVER seen the Food Writer pens before. Where did you get them? I *LOVE* this idea!!
Posted by: Ashley Pichea | November 19, 2010 at 10:30 AM
This is WONDERFUL! And just the reminder I needed. I am thankful for a heavenly father that has always loved me and has given me the best in this life. Even my temporary stumbles he makes into great things. Thanks for making me remember.
Posted by: SweetSugarBelle | November 20, 2010 at 12:51 PM
We have the same tradition to say what we are thankful for before eating. We are going to my aunt's house this year, and I think it will be fun to make these. I saw these pens recently, so I can pick a couple up and take them over there. I love this cookie idea.
Posted by: Amanda B | November 21, 2010 at 02:16 PM
Love your stuff.........Very original, visually pleasing. Your site has a warm, cozy feel to it , as well....Kudos, Anthony.
Posted by: Anthony Kimber | November 21, 2010 at 11:16 PM
Love these cookies...what a great idea. You are so talented. Miss you.
Posted by: He & Me + 3 | November 23, 2010 at 05:27 PM
Very creative with a great message!
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